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All previous Brothers and Sisters transgressions are hereby forgiven due to the delivery of the best line I have heard in a long time;

“It’s Take Your Illegitimate Child to Work Day”


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Celeb Adoptomania and Moronic Adoption Language

I wonder if people truly realize how insulting the following language is to someone who is adopted. Based on comments I have received my whole life I know most people will read it and just get lost in the vision of the end result (I’ll take the Happy Family platter please). Sadly I think very few would understand how this whole thing comes across to an adoptee;

“The couple has come to a conclusion after several attempts of having a baby together. The 30 year-old {Ashton} Kutcher and Demi Moore, 40 have been together for six years and married for three and no baby was on his way even with in vitro fertilization.”

This is my personal fav;

An insider disclosed that “They had always resisted adoption because they wanted a baby of their own, but now everything has changed.”

And now for some completely worn out adoption ideology;

Kutcher has openly revealed that he and Demi have been considering to adopt an orphaned child together. “I have thought about adopting a kid my whole life,” he admitted, adding “When I was eight I had a friend called Terry and one day he told me he was adopted. “

He, furthermore, stated “He said his parents told him there was a more special bond between them because they picked him. I thought that was pretty profound and I would be open to the idea.”

Here is what I read;

Due to many failed attempts at harvesting from their very own orchard and with deep regret they resign themselves to do the next best thing- harvest elsewhere. Feebly disguised as a ride on the “Save An Orphan Train”, their ultimate goal is to procure a replacement baby. They plan to PICK one this summer.

And people wonder why we feel second best.


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Illegitimati Non Carborundum

I have been reading all of the great blog posts surrounding that mind bending interview Sean Hannity did with Ann Coulter. Isn’t it fascinating how much good can actually bloom out of the destructive ramblings of that ego driven madwoman?

In 2006 my husband decided to buy us tickets to the Hannity Freedom Concert at Six Flags. It was explained to me that the concert was to support the Freedom Alliance scholarship funds for the children of our fallen men and women on the front-lines. I am not a fan of country music but I succumbed for the awesome cause. LeAnn Rimes and Montgomery Gentry were to perform. I remember seeing LeAnn on Oprah a hundred years ago when she was just a wee one yodeling her little heart out and I was actually kind of looking forward to seeing her in concert. Not so much the Gentry boys but again it was for a good cause.

As it turned out it wasn’t so much a concert as it was a good ole’ boy boondoggle, a liberal lynching, a full blown right wing RALLY of infinite proportions. Rally roucous raisers included Olly North, Mark Levin, the queen beotch herself Ann Coulter and of course Lee Greenwood singing a heartwarming and gallant rendition of “God Bless the USA” which we all know no respectable republican rally should be without.

Now really try and picture this; I am standing smack in the center of an arena filled to capacity with extreme conservatives cheering madly and foaming at the mouth every time Elisabeth Hasselbeck (The View) showed some leg. OH, did I forget to mention that twit was there too? Yes, it was a real treat I tell you! Anyway, I am dressed in my “feed the hungry” tee, my “PEACE LOVER” baseball cap and flip flops. The only thing I was missing was a giant oak tree to hug . Now that I think about it it’s probably a good thing there was no tree because based on the looks I was getting I probably would have been strung up in it. I began to frantically look around for an escape route when it occurred to me that I was most likely completely surrounded by proud card holders of the NRA and quickly thought better of it.

My husband looked at me with horror in his eyes having clearly grasped the enormous err of his ways and anxiously shuffled his feet as he began contemplating the very long and cold ride home.

I began to hyperventilate. My hyperventilating soon moved to extreme anger though as I listened to Levin spew his message of hate toward liberals. His message was simple; if you are a liberal (which we all know is just freaking synonymous with being a democrat) you are anti-American. He went on to spout complete rhetoric like “when was the last time you met a liberal who supported our troops?” I wanted to scream HEY ASSHOLE THERE’S ONE RIGHT HERE, I’M RIGHT HERREEEEEE !!!!!! But I didn’t (mostly due to the aforementioned gun toting statistic) and I regret it. I really do. I don’t understand why people like that can’t grasp the simple concept that a person doesn’t need the fluff, flags and firearms to be a good American. Nor do they need those things to FULLY support our troops. I AM a good American and I DO fully support the men and women who have bravely decided to defend our country. How many times do we have to tell these yahoos that a person actually CAN support our troops and not support the damn war or even….gasp….the presidents choices? What kind of idiot can’t understand that the ability to speak our minds and HAVE an opinion is what makes this country so great?!

What does this have to do with adoption? You knew it was here somewhere right?

Well when I read the commentary between Hannity and Coulter I had flashbacks of the hateful speech she gave at the concert. Her agenda is simple; hate what you are not. In her case….human.

During the interview Coulter states; “it’s a choice not to give an illegitimate child up for adoption…” I paraphrase here because I’m sure by now most of you have read the entire debacle. If not go here.

I take it personally when the word illegitimate is used. Silly? Maybe. It is after all just a word but it is one that is used to describe not only myself but ALL of my fellow adoptees at one point in our lives. The most important part too I might add; the beginning. Now in the spirit of fairness our status is upgraded once the ink is dry and more importantly it is a valid term taken straight from the pages of the dictionary. Take a look;


  1. Against the law; illegal.
  2. Born out of wedlock.
  3. Grammar Not in correct usage.
  4. Incorrectly deduced; illogical.
  5. Biology Unacceptable as a scientific name because of contradiction to the international rules of nomenclature.

1536, “born out of wedlock,” formed in Eng., modeled on L. illegitimus “not legitimate.” Sense of “unauthorized, unwarranted” is from 1645. Phrase illegitimati non carborundum, usually “translated” as “don’t let the bastards grind you down,” is fake Latin from c.1939. Carborundum was a brand of abrasives (reg. trademark U.S. June 21, 1892, by Carborundum Co. of Monongahela City, Pa.). The compound was made from carbon and silicon; the word from carbon + corundum.

None the less I ask you is it really NECESSARY in 2009 to use such an archaic term (473 years old to be exact) when describing ANY CHILD……EVER?! I mean if anyone should be called illegitimate its Coulter because everything that comes out of that hateful woman’s mouth is; Incorrectly deduced; illogical.

Dear Annie, Can I call you Annie? I just love the irony there. If you were a good conservative you would read your bible and there you would learn that no child is ever ILLEGITIMATELY born into this world. But that insignificant point aside sweetie let me give you some advice; when you wake up every day with the intent to spread your message of anger and hate but just can’t seem to find the energy to face those gawd awful peace loving dredges of society, just remember…… words can’t hurt you! And if you ever begin to question the path you have chosen simply look in the mirror and repeat this mantra;

Don’t let the bastards grind you down”!

*The American Heritage® Dictionary of the English Language, Fourth EditionCopyright © 2006 by Houghton Mifflin Company.Published by Houghton Mifflin Company. All rights reserved.


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The City of Brotherly Love…

….is calling YOUR name!

Philadelphia Adoptee Rights Demonstration

July 21, 2009

We propose a one day ADOPTEE RIGHTS DEMONSTRATION at the National Conference of State Legislature’s Annual Meeting in Philadelphia, PA, on Tuesday July 21st, 2009.

The National Conference of State Legislatures is the largest group of its kind, the national organization of STATE LAWMAKERS, the people who DECIDE whether you may access your original birth certificates… OR NOT.

We propose a gathering of adoptees and all supporters of the rights of adoptees to unrestricted access to their own records of birth, representing all fifty states, a one-day rally that will be an opportunity for adoptees to demonstrate their commitment to adoptee rights and to meet their state delegation.

Please join us!

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A New Earth

I have decided to participate in the web event on Eckhart Tolle’s book A New Earth. It is hosted by Oprah and because of that I have to admit my first thought was not to join. I know, I know….Oprah does a lot of good. But after years of virtually begging her to take a look at the damaging side of adoption and airing it on her show I have become discouraged with her seeming desire for ratings outweighing the less “popular” issues being brought to light. However my like for Tolle’s message took over and I am so glad it did. I even have a new found sense of gratitude for Oprah for helping bring this message to the world in a way only Oprah can.

Not only is the book absolutely fabulous but the podcast was as well. It airs every Monday evening and who wouldn’t appreciate a great reason to love Mondays? The message boards are interesting too although you have to wade through a lot of self- riotous ego talk to get to the gems. But we are all pretty good at that by now aren’t we?

It’s not to late! You can still join and even view the podcast from this past Monday. Hope to see you there!


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(I am leaving the post up because it is my honest reaction, but I’m removing the link to the site. I don’t want to be responsible for driving traffic there.)


Oh and if this is simply elaborate satire……….I am NOT laughing.


Bottom line for everyone who sees the humor in this:

Regardless of whether or not someone was just trying to bring to light the need for adoption reform with dark humor…..the fact remains that there are CHILDREN’S PICTURES slathered all over that website which makes it exploitation. I am blown away that this site has been allowed to remain on the internet for as long as it has and am OUTRAGED at the idea that someone’s desire for adoption reform (in this case through “humor”) would outweigh accountability to those children! To find humor in this AND be a proponent of adoption reform is vastly hypocritical. It’s a freaking oxymoron!!!!!!


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Voice of Adoptees

 I have not had the opportunity to check into this at all so this is not a personal endorsement. However I was asked by Gloria to pass on the information for your consideration. I look forward to reading more, it sounds interesting.


Contact: Gloria Oren

Tel. 425/746-5826

Cell phone: 425/445-5382


Call for submissions: poetry, stories, articles and reunion news

Voice of Adoptees: the Newsletter that Gives Adoptees a Voice

Gloria Oren, a reunited adoptee, grew up under the umbrella of secrecy. She saw the need for a place where adoptees could share their experiences through poetry, story and more. That led to the birth of Voice of Adoptees (VOA) Newsletter, a monthly ezine with a related Website and Blog.

VOA will arrive in your Inbox on the third Tuesday of each month, with the first issue due out on Feb 19th. Submission deadlines will be the first Tuesday of each month. The deadline for the first issue is will be Feb 5th. For more information see

Adoptees who have pieces accepted for publication will receive a byline and a bio of up to five lines, if desired. In addition, guest articles from non-adoptees on adoption theme topics for the newsletter are welcome. Send submissions to

Visit . The site offers a range of pieces shared by adoptees (poems, stories, and articles), search tips, information on National Adoption Month, and many links.

Also visit VOA’s Family Connections Blog at

and VOAs MySpace at

If you’d like more information about VOA, or to schedule an interview with Gloria Oren, please call Gloria at 425/445-5382 or email Gloria at

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