Who else on Earth but a rejected adoptee can find their sister, their brother and their niece on Facebook and feel utterly powerless, completely unworthy,  to push the friend button?

Like a knife through the heart it really drives home that title; bastard.

Kind of like watching Brothers and Sisters the other night (I know, I know, I know) when Nora says she went to visit Ryan and invited him to come and Kitty says; “THE BASTARD?!” and my head actually turned from the blunt force of the slap across my face.

Then Tommy later implies that “this guy surely must want something we have since we’re so rich and all”. Hide the silver the bastard is coming to town! That’s not fiction people. I have heard it many times before.

When a fellow adoptee uses the term bastard it usually makes me laugh  but let someone else use it and mean it and it makes me want to rip their face off. Even if it is a fictional character on TV (who happens to be in the process of ADOPTING). Because even though it’s fiction someone needed to actually WRITE that script and unless that writer is an adoptee they have no right at all to use that term. None.

I’m rambling and I know it. Just pouring out what I’m feeling, proper english and correct sentence structure be damned. It is what it is. Raw ramblings of a real life bastard who has to view HER brothers and sisters from the outside. Look but don’t touch. That’s me….100% grade A bastard through and through.

So you think you understand the term bastard enough to use it in a sentence? You don’t have a clue. Unless you live it you have no idea how much it hurts to be on the outside looking in. You can’t even come CLOSE to understanding the true meaning of the word, which means you have no right to use it.

And while I’m at it let me also tell you how utterly ignorant it is of  you to think we have our eye on your damn silver!



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9 responses to “Facebook,Family,Bastard.

  1. Suz

    Hugs to you my darling Mia. Understand this completely only in reverse.

  2. I get it totally, sitting here with my own non-friended Facebook relatives.

  3. To be fair, they hardly treated Rebeckah any better, and Kitty was the worse. Now Rebeckah is sleeping with her ex-brother and it’s OK with everybody.

    “Bastard” doesn’t bother me at all, though. That’s the way some people think and act in real life.

  4. ((((((Theresa)))))

    Kitty has an excuse due to her highly influential political affiliations.

  5. I wasn’t rejected, but I still feel very much like I’ll always be the “outsider” simply because of the lost years.

  6. totally, totally get it. My 1/2 sister and brother who know about me are on FB (not to mention numerous cousins, aunts and uncles). It took me 4 months to work up the courage to message my sister and she has ignored me for exactly a month today. YAY! Emailed bmom 8 days ago and she is also ignoring. awesome! not.

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