When I began my blog back in 06′ I had no idea how instrumental it would be in my adoption/reunion journey. I belonged to a few online groups and even assisted moderating for a long while. Groups are nice because the audience is limited so they provide a more intimate and safe setting for discussion than opening up to the world such as one does on a blog. But blogging has it’s own unique benefits. I think many of these benefits though are being lost by the use of feed readers.
I remember the first comments I received on this blog. I was blown away that complete strangers would want to hear what I had to say. It was validating and healing in a million different ways. Here you are putting your soul out there and out of the blue someone shows up to support you. That is a beautiful thing.
Even those who left derogatory comments were appreciated because it usually led to some sort of meaningful dialogue. It is a pretty great feeling when you are able to help someone see the other side of a subject you are passionate about, a perspective they may not have considered before. I have certainly gained perspective by listening to others as well. That is how the worlds are changed.
No one could contest to the fact that internet technology has improved our lives. It has enabled us to communicate with people oceans apart. I personally have made friends I now find indispensable in my life. I have friends met through the internet that I am closer to than anyone in the family I was adopted into and most certainly closer to anyone in my natural family. Although that is by their choice not mine but that’s another story.
The point is it’s the COMMUNICATION that makes blogging beneficial. The interaction with one another is what creates the bonds and helps the healing. I don’t necessarily believe anymore that one can ever fully recover from the wounds created by adoption but some measure of healing CAN take place and blogging definitely helps with that. It just seems now everyone is using readers more and commenting less. Unless a post is particularly controversial of course ;o). I am completely guilty of this myself. I read much more with my reader (good) but comment less and less (bad) .
I don’t plan to blog for much longer (which I will write about another day) but I just wanted to humbly and yes, hypocritically say; directly communicating with one another is worth the effort. I hope those who carry the adoption blogging torch in the future will consider how vital direct communication is. Without it you lose one of the most valuable aspects of the blogging experience- the forming of friendships.