A topic of conversation over at Third Mom’s has spurred this post. The topic is the impact of religious beliefs on adoption.
The foundation of discourse among those most outspoken in the world of adoption seems to always teeter precariously on the pendulum of religious beliefs. There are a vast number of people who tend to use a platform of religion as their adoption ethics soap box. The problem with this ideology is that the word “religion” often comes with a tag of right-ness firmly attached. Why doesn’t that work? It closes the door to productive communication immediately because the egoic creation of right immediately gives birth to wrong. Any mutually productive and creative solution becomes impossible to manifest when two minds are battling for top spot on the soap box.
Take for example this string of commentary. The author Megan Bakaits states “to obtain ones original birth certificate is not a civil or human right.” She supports this argument from the basis of RELIGIOUS RIGHT. Pun intended. This author impressively managed to remove civil and human rights from an entire class of people based on her religious beliefs. Those of us who are active in adoption reform are no stranger to this ideology. I would venture to say each one of us has been beaten relentlessly with the religion stick on more than one occasion.
How do we navigate the waters of positive change?
There is a VAST difference between religion and spirituality. One can be deeply spiritual and yet not be confined by religious dogma because spirituality is not based on a man made belief structure. It does not gain it’s strength from any belief in right vs wrong. In other words it’s existence is not dependent upon forcing change in another.
On Third Mom’s blog Erin commented “Haven’t many of the greatest movements in history been rooted in religion? In American history alone, the abolitionists and later the civil rights movement were all rooted in religion. To ask for ethical reform without religion is, maybe to much to ask, because for many of us, religion is our guidance.”
Herein lies a HUGE misunderstanding. The most DESTRUCTIVE movements in history have been rooted in religion. The GREATEST movements in history have been rooted in SPIRITUALITY. Most of those who have been successful at being a catalyst for positive change have clearly understood the difference between religion and spirituality. Although most of these pioneers of positive change walked a preferred religious path NONE of them coined those who walked other religious paths as WRONG. They concentrated on our similarities, NOT our differences. They could truly celebrate diversity because they clearly understood our infinitely more important similarities. Any belief structure that deems itself the ONLY way must defend itself from all that does not believe just like it does. Any opposition must be eliminated. Fear is the motivator because such strict guidelines give birth to the concept; I must prove you wrong or I will cease to exist.
A shift in consciousness IS taking place. More and more people are turning inward for a closer look at the divine. Many on this amazing planet of ours are seeking insight NOT from the constructs of the egoic mind (right vs wrong, I am better than you mentality) but from a deeper, more intimate place within. We have come to a place in history where we can no longer buy the “one dogma suits all” ideology. Spirituality is slowly beginning to take over the strict confines of man made religion and not a moment too soon.
What does this have to do with adoption reform specifically?
When you remove the shackles of strict religious dogma and replace it with pure spiritual consciousness you open yourself up to infinite possibilities. Each action is based upon a deep understanding of our oneness. If your actions are motivated by that deep understanding you automatically eliminate entitlement, you eliminate ownership, you eliminate fear, you eliminate secrecy and shame. Most importantly you eliminate the need for personal gain at the expense of another because you come to truly understand that to do unto others IS to do to unto yourself.
If you eliminate these elements from the adoption industry what are you left with? Ideal adoption reform.