This question was posed to me by an adoptive mother. It’s a good question. Here is my reply.
Unconditionally and All Inclusively– embracing all that I am and all that I am not. Love for all of the parts which make me – ME. This includes loving the parts you find uncomfortable, challenging and threatening. I am not speaking of behaviors or actions that are unhealthy here, I am talking about the essence of all that makes me who I am.
Truthfully – acknowledging my entire being, without forcing me into the impossible roles of; healer of things it is not my place to heal, fixer of things it is not my job to fix, creator of things that I simply cannot create. Please do not hand me your baggage to carry. Be truthful with yourself because I already know the truth of my existence and I am familiar with my limitations. I intuitively know who I am and who I am not. If I encourage you in living untruths it just means I have become a good actor.
Fiercely – protective of my rights as a human being. Shifting society’s perception by embracing truth and dispelling myth even if it makes you uncomfortable.
Freely – I hear ultimatums spoken or unspoken. I hear them. Ultimatums makes me worry that if I don’t comply you will stop loving me.
Compassionately – for the parts of me you will never fully understand. Acceptance of the truth that there are parts that hurt inside of me that you cannot heal even though you want to with every fiber of your being. Some paths I must walk alone.