It all becomes so tiring. Trying to provide evidence regarding why it is so important to treat one another with dignity, respect and love. Trying to get people to understand why it’s necessary (to the very core of our existence) to have our true identities honored instead of hidden. Why we should strive to keep families intact. Why being disrespectful serves no purpose. How dismissing someone’s feelings as unimportant or irrelevant goes against the very nature of humanity. That not allowing someone to speak their truth because it makes us uncomfortable is just plain wrong.
How brilliant is it that we can speak to one another with compassion and respect? How encouraging that we can be open minded about someone else’s perspective and they can return that favor! The disrespect I see within the adoption community is overwhelming. Everyone striving to be right instead of simply heard. Using messages of hate to provide evidence of their “right-ness”. No single person gets to chose how we feel. You can’t explain away another persons feelings to fit your perspective, to make yourself more comfortable.
Adoption reform begins with respect. If we can’t find a way to remove ourselves from our own right-ness long enough to feel anothers human-ness the future will be dismal and positive change will never occur. Call me an optimist, call me sappy, call me what you will. But I can’t help but be optimistic about how these conversations have gone. It feels to me like we have encompassed the idea of EVERYONE holding up a sign like this….
……….and THAT is how making a difference begins.
*A special thanks to Kevin, for your amazing ideas and for guiding me to this video.*