A friend of mine just posted this on a group I belong to. I have made no secret of my disdain for the Catholic Conference and Catholic Charities organizations. I have good reason to feel the way I do. I think no matter where you stand regarding the NJ bill it is not difficult to see the hypocrisy slathered throughout this document. Let’s have some fun shall we?
Italics are mine. Obviously.
New Jersey Catholic Conference
149 North Warren Street, Trenton, New Jersey 08608
A-2557 (Primary Sponsors: Manzo, Prieto, Voss and Caraballo)
In the near future, the Assembly Human Services Committee will consider A-2557. This proposal would permit adults who had been adopted as children, as well as the guardians or adoptive parents of a child who is currently a minor, to learn the identity of a biological parent. These birth parents had surrendered children for adoption with not merely an expectation of confidentiality but with actual statutory assurance that his or her identity as the child’s parent will be shielded from public disclosure.
You know I always thought Thou Shalt Not Lie was part of the ten commandments. After reviewing them I see I am mistaken. My bad. I should have paid more attention in catechism class. It stands to reason then that the CC believes all adult adoptees shall go through life without knowing their true identity so natural parents can keep their secrets hidden, lie to their loved ones and live in eternal shame. Truly, if shame is not the point what is? It’s just a good thing secrets and lies aren’t part of the ten commandments! Whew.
The New Jersey Catholic Conference opposes A2557 as currently written. NJCC does not oppose adoptees’ having full access to their biological parents’ medical histories; this information can often prove helpful in dealing with medical difficulties that they – and their own descendants – might confront. While it is currently fully available, the Legislature’s formally mandating such availability would be advisable.
Descendant? Isn’t that just a clever way to say FAMILY? I’m sure using the word family in any part of this document was probably strongly advised against.
We are no longer in need of the services of a social worker government mandated or or otherwise. We are adults now. Thank you very much. If I or one of my loved ones is dying and we need medical history asap it would be really swell not to have to go through a lengthy court proceeding to save their life. But that’s just the ungrateful bastard in me talking.
Neither does the Conference oppose revealing the identities of their natural parents to adoptees in cases where the natural parents have affirmatively consented to the release of such information. However, to release that information without the birth parents’ actual consent is a callous betrayal.
This is laughable. Everyone knows if you look up the term callous betrayal you will find the following;
A person or group who steals a child’s identity, falsifies documents passing them off as accurate and charges for the service. All the while doing so and claiming to have the best interest of said child at heart. Furthermore, refusing to return the aforementioned stolen identity even when said child reaches maturity. In an attempt to personify the essence of callous betrayal this group later charges the adult in question for bits and pieces of their very own stolen identity, knowing full well no recognition of true identity can be gained by the bits and pieces they choose to share.
Birth mothers have relied on an assurance of privacy not based on some private contract or agreement between themselves and the adoption agency; no such contract or agreement was needed in light of the specific public law – which the court has called “the statutory shield of confidentiality.”
There is absolutely no rationale to this what so ever. Is it a law or isn’t it? Public law? So it’s a societal thing then? Was it just implied or did everyone go around saying; “Contract?” “We don’t need no stinking contract!” “The statutory shield of confidentiality l’ be good e nuf’!”
They seem to use the word shield a lot. I wonder………….as a parting gift to our mothers did they hand out actual metal shields like the knights of the round table had? Did it have a big S on it or was the word SECRET spelled out? I would like to get my hands on one of these shields so I can hang it above my fireplace and use it as my family crest.
A2557 should be amended to include an enhanced mutual consent registry system which would link biological parents and adult adopted persons when the parties have requested and consented to such a reunion. This enhanced mutual consent registry would use a qualified individual or agency to function as an Intermediary
This one is great. I love this bit of advertising. Is it merely coincidence that CC actually has their very own intermediary service? Yep that’s right folks adult adoptees can PAY CC to contact our family members for us! Of course we have to go through counseling first (one of theirs, we can’t pick our own) and pay for that too. I love how it says enhanced mutual consent registry, making it sound all new and improved. So what of the adoptee who doesn’t wish to make contact at this time? What if they simply want their identity back?
Please call, fax or email the office of your local Assemblyman or Assemblywoman in opposition to A-2557. You can use the NJCC statement as a basis for your opposition.
Oh yes, by all means please do. Be sure to mention the fine folks over at the NJCC! I think they get a gold star for every referral.
Most of us know the real reasons the CC doesn’t want records opened but this is what they claim to have as their reasoning. Reading this is like being forced to eat a giant pile of steaming scrapple. Do you know what scrapple is? It consists of the same ingredients as a hot dog but with a handful of hair thrown in for good measure. It’s one of those things that you eat even though you are never entirely sure what it is you are putting into your mouth.
I have to go now. These waders I’m wearing are making me sweat.