You know I would have a little more respect for these people if they would tell the truth about their true agendas. Do they think we HONESTLY believe that they care one iota about the rights of birthmothers? If they DID care they wouldn’t oppose open records! Our government is based upon the principal of majority rules. How many research studies need to be done before they accept that the majority of birthmothers SUPPORT open records?
I think their agenda is personal, protecting themselves from potential law suits. Maybe a little AP client protection thrown in for good measure.
They state; “New Jersey adoption law has, since its enactment, promised confidentiality to birth parents, allowing access upon a legal showing of good cause. While some have characterized this legislation as the “birthright bill” it is clear that for some, only one party in the adoption process has rights – adult adoptees.”
Now do you suppose that’s because we are the only ones who had our identities stolen? It’s not supposed to be about anyone else. Regardless, I am not aware of ANY language in a legal adoption document in which confidentiality was promised!!!!! It’s presumed.
Then they have to go and throw the Safe Haven thing in there. Ohhhhhh my. Are you serious? This should be a non-issue regarding open records. It’s a no brain-er. They throw it in because they know it takes the attention off of the real issue. But since THEY brought it up…………..
You know Safe Haven law suggests that any woman who is CRAZY enough to stick their child in a dumpster to die would somehow be capable of making the clear and rational decision to drop their baby off at the local fire station. Let’s be logical about this. Any woman clear minded enough to choose a fire station over a dumpster should not be allowed the OPTION to do something so entirely irresponsible as abandoning their child. Leaving that child to go the rest of their lives without ANY identity. Some may say “well at least the baby is alive” but I can’t imagine someone rational enough to make this choice would even consider something as horrifying as leaving their baby to die. These women obviously care about the fate of their child.
I ask you how not only allowing this sort of behavior from perfectly competent young women but actually ENCOURAGING IT can be seen as a positive thing??? ACCOUNTABILITY PEOPLE!!! Crazy dumpster dumpers aren’t capable of morally just actions regardless of the options out there. Utterly heartbreaking but true and no Safe Haven law is going to change that. Abandoning a baby is NEVER the right choice!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Shame on anyone who not only suggests it is but actually encourages it. A competent young woman who doesn’t have the choice to abandon her baby with no repercussions would be FAR more likely to choose adoption. Are we to believe that abandoning your baby is a calculated decision from conception? Nooooooo, so don’t even try and convince me it’s tied to the choice to abort. Utter rubbish.
The concept of safe haven is a feel good law.Everyone wants to climb aboard the feel good bandwagon. The problem is it doesn’t address the real issue which is the serious lack of unbiased and readily available support for women who find themselves alone and pregnant. It’s a patch, like putting gum on the flat bandwagon tire. It looks good but ultimately it isn’t going to get you where you want to go. People support it because it makes them feel good, so they can sleep at night. But if the claims of it’s potential success are true then tell me something; will the mother who abandons her baby at the fire station be getting any sleep? Will that child who WILL grow up and become an adult have serious identity issues (that CANNOT be rectified) get any sleep? So if the two people for whom this law was supposedly created are not getting sleep at night please remind me again…… who is? Oh. That’s right.
I am so sick and tired of all of these groups claiming they “care” and using misleading information to convince everyone that they do. I am tired of watching them throw in key phrases they know people will listen to like Safe Haven in an attempt to draw attention away from their true agendas. It’s like watching a bunch of cheaters play poker.
All of these people fighting laws and speaking for others they have no right speaking for. People with personal agendas, people covering their asses, people who’s paychecks depend on successful adoptions, people SO self riotous that they invent their own patches even though those directly involved have repeatedly given them viable solutions. Who ARE these people sleeping so peacefully at night? How do they DO that?!?!
Oh oh oh It’s MAGIC, YOU KNOOOWWWW.
I’ll bet if you ask any of these people to show you a copy of THEIR original birth certificate they could provide you with one.