After reading the poem below you may be surprised to know that I wrote it to myself. I have been working on issues of self worth lately and the poem was a gentle reminder to honor all of the qualities I think are positive about who I am. Knowing what I do of other adoptees I see that issues of self esteem are pretty common among us, so I know I am in good company.
It didn’t surprise me that most who read the poem drew a parallel to my first mother. After writing it I read over it and immediately saw the connection myself. As a matter of fact I can even see a connection between myself and my adoptive mom as well. The poem made me realize the extent to which I am connected to both of them.
The largest living organism on the planet is an aspen grove in Utah. The roots of an aspen grove are inner-twined and although each tree stands on it’s own, below the surface it is connected to every other tree in the grove. Such is the bond between mothers and daughters, it’s binding. Our sense of self is forged upon the roots of generations of mothers before us. The poem made me realize that I can’t cut myself completely from the organism of my mothers and expect to thrive. We grow and branch out on our own but no matter what the relationship between our mothers and ourselves, at the very least, we must acknowledge the connection and honor it. For without those roots we would simply cease to exist.