Lately I have been thinking about a subject I would like some feedback on. It has to do with the whole statistical percentage of birthmothers who deny contact vs those who choose reunion. I know that the 90% figure E threw out there is just BS with no scientific evidence to back it up, but as Cookie said I don’t necessarily think the numbers are as good in favor of reunion as people would have us believe.
When I first started searching I heard case after case of positive response to reunion. I think this is why I was so completely caught off guard when E denied contact. I love to hear stories of positive reunions but there is a part of me, if I am to be completely honest, that hurts when I see a mom embrace the opportunity to reunite and accept it like the gift that it is. What sets these moms apart? How do we reach the moms who would choose to deny contact, to help them understand this process?
Lately, like over the last year or so I have seen a frightening increase in the number of moms who deny contact. The pendulum (sp?) seems to be swinging in a different direction these days. So my question is what do you think this turning of the tides has to do with? Is it bad press? Not enough press? Need for education? Was I looking at life through rose colored glasses? I really don’t think so, I mean I have so many moms praying for reunion in my personal circle of experience it seems unlikely. Although I suppose I wouldn’t gravitate toward a mom with any other perspective. ;o)
So what do you think? Are the tides turning? Are the statistics I have seen just wishful thinking on our part? Or is this just a brief downhill ride on the rollercoaster? What can we do to educate the public? How can we convince those in control of our records that change needs to be made when we can’t even get our own mothers to understand? I know open records and reunion need to remain seperate issues but for those opposed to open records they are one and the same so I think it needs to be addressed.
Any thoughts on this?